If you are married, with kids; 1. Don't change yourself all at once. Let your outside appearance change very slowly otherwise you'll create child custody issues.
If you are ready to make the divorce dive or even contemplating divorce - DO NOT share anything with your husband/wife/partner. AVOID putting things on facebook or anywhere else where your spouse can find that information because it WILL be used against you in court. Even if you are ‘sure’ that you have all the precautions covered…
You’re already married, and now you’re having thoughts. You feel like you are going crazy. Will your wife hate you if you tell her? Will she go running to her parents and begging for help? Will your own parents try to send you to marriage counseling for Sholom Bayis problems?